I 'know' what was planned for XMAS...my parents were supposed to not go to FLORIDA...for a warm XMAS...they were to stay in MANNINGTREE and decide to have a big family 'do' which I was to be forced to attend...no transport on that day so my mother was supposed to drive to CLACTON and pick me up beforehand...which added to her 'bad humour'...she gets so stressed out at XMAS...that she can hardly cope at all...

So naturally I will call off any XMAS 'do' this year...and stay here, safely.