SONIA felt sorry for her, because her father had ruled their house with a ROD OF IRON...an abused child.

yes, but you also have to say this (time and time again) - just because you came from that sort of household - you do NOT have to turn into a MRS HOLLAND - do you?

Most people from such an IRON ROD abusive background, do not turn into a MRS HOLLAND - those who do - have to be dealt with.